Humble Mother

I was chatting with Natali about how Motherhood is sometimes challenging (really a balancing act) when trying to juggle so many other aspects of life. I've had a lot going on lately and I've been working hard to try to not let anything fall through the cracks. Things that would have never happened in my "former life."

I was actually saddened when I thought I had forgotten to write up this week's giveaway. As I explained to Nat, I take so much pride in not missing a beat. At least trying to anyway. It frustrates me that I can't remember certain things (so I write everything down). It annoys me that it takes me longer to get things done -- my "to do" list often takes a full week to complete and sometimes two. And I hate being late. Alas... I am adjusting to this new life and I am a much better person for it! At least I know one thing. No matter what falls though the cracks, nothing is more important to me than being on top of my A-game as a Mother.

During our convo (over email mind you) Natali said, "Being a mommy has made me humble myself A LOT when things fall through the cracks that I know that I NEVER would have let happen in my "former life." It happens! But it is kind of good to be humbled in that way. I see how less perfect people live. HA!"

And this made me smile...

Double Standard

Why is it that I am completely understanding of my mommy friends who are late to a play date, have to leave early from a lunch or all together have to reschedule - and I still hold my best non-mommy friends accountable for showing up exactly on time?!

One of my biggest pet peeves is tardiness. Not the occasional, "I'm running a five min late," or even 10-15 with a heads up but the "I'm about 20 min behind...I just got one working out" or what ever the case may be. I'm not even going to get started. I am lucky to say that even my always-late friends are really great about being on time when meeting me. I think it's because I've given them so much grief over the years.

Now back to why I am writing this post. Yesterday I was meeting two moms and their babies for lunch at 11 a.m. (which is now the new meeting time because the babes are just waking from their first nap and are happy!).  Because Taz has woken early from her nap I was on time. I got a text from one mom that she was going to be 10 min late and a call from another saying that her baby was still sleeping. My rule is never wake a sleeping baby if you don’t have to so I assured her to just meet up with us when ever he woke. So our 11 a.m. lunch turned into an 11:30ish lunch and it was fabulous! Then I thought about it and wondered why I wasn’t in the last bothered. If this was a situation with some of my non-mommy friends I would have been pretty irritated.

The thing is, when you have a kid, you have to just go with the flow. I’ve become a better person living by this motto. I try hard not to plan too much and when I make plans I usually end the confirmation with something like, “….depending on how Taz is doing, I’ll let you  know.” There is just so much you can’t control with a baby like poop explosions or lots of spit up and you both have to change, or extra long naps (which are a blessing)!

So I don’t feel bad about holding my non-mommy friends to being on time. Now, more than ever this is so important to me because I only have a short window of time to hang out before I need to be home to relieve my hubby, babysitter or when I just get too tired to enjoy myself.