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Getting in Front of the Camera

You've heard it before. As moms, we're often the ones behind the camera capturing the moment. This makes for full and varied photo albumns, but it leaves us out of most of the pictures. I know I recently did some fun photos with Eversnap, but when my very good friend Adriana Klas offered to take some familiy portraits as part of her Mother's Day mini-sessions, I couldn't refuse. And man was I right about the difference in the images from a casual photographer versus an artist like Adriana. These new photos knocked me off my feet. 


Mini-sessions like this are the perfect way to periodically capture a moment in time. They are more affordable than a full session and short enough that the kids (and dad) can tolerate them. I know that I'll look back at these photos and laugh about how the boys used to knock me over with their hugs, and I'll always wonder what Nic and Z were talking about in that last one. 



Keeping Mothers’ Clubs Relevant (and Efficient) in a Changing World


This is part 3 in my series on mothers’ clubs. Need to catch up? Part 1 and part 2.

You’d think that the ease of connecting online would be a boon for mothers’ clubs, but it’s been a blessing and a curse. Sure, clubs can communicate with vast memberships with a few taps and clicks, but valuable, in-person events can be thinly attended and real connections are sometimes hard to find.

This was a major topic at the Community Leaders Summit I attended a few months back. Leaders of local parents’ clubs talked at length about how to attract and keep members in a day when anyone can start a Facebook group. Not that there’s anything wrong with Facebook groups, it’s just that mothers’ clubs have the depth and scale to offer so much more to new parents than a lively message board.  

I was really inspired by the enthusiasm of one of the conference organizers—Amourence Lee. She cares so deeply about parents’ groups and what they mean to our community that she co-founded an organization to help them. Her company, Parent Clubs on Board, was recently acquired by and aims to give parents’ clubs tools to help them run more efficiently. For example, why should every mothers’ club on the SF Peninsula individually create a catalog of local preschools for their respective preschool fairs? They shouldn’t. That’s why Parent Clubs on Board created an online platform that local clubs can use to disseminate information about preschools in their area.

And I love that Amourence and her co-founder Leisa McNeese created Parent Clubs on Board in living rooms across the Peninsula with their toddlers running around them. It heartens me to hear stories about moms coming together and building something in an unconventional way. I know my local mothers’ club has given me opportunities like this and I hope the club thrives long enough to do the same for many future generations.

Amourence Lee Leisa McNeese


About Face

Happy with his new view.

After much anguished internal debate, I’ve turned Z’s car seat to be forward-facing. It’s well-documented that it’s safest to keep kids rear-facing as long as possible, so I wanted to keep him backward until he was three. However, I’ve been having significant shoulder pain for more than six months and lifting my 30+ pound boy in and out of the car is counter-productive to all of the effort I’m putting into physical therapy.  

Z is SO happy to be seeing the world in a new way (“Mommy, I can see you! Mommy, the light is green!). And I’m happy that he’s able to climb in and out of the car seat on his own (at an excruciatingly slow pace). But I’m still nervous. I know that he’s a big strong kid, but I just feel like he’s so vulnerable back there. It’s like that feeling of driving your newborn around for the first time.

I bet I would have felt this way when I turned him at his third birthday, but I’m still second-guessing my decision. I suppose I’ll just do some extra-defensive driving! 


In Praise of a Chuck E Cheese Birthday Party

Best. Day. Ever.

I’ll admit that when Nic decided over a year ago that he wanted his 5th birthday party at Chuck E Cheese, I was less than excited. As a kid, I LOOOVED Chuck E Cheese. But now that I’m a parent, I’ve seen too many episodes of Law & Order: SVU that get there start in an eerily similar place, and sometimes I have a hard time getting past the germ factor.

Nic stuck to his guns though, and when it was time to make serious plans for the party, he still wanted Chuck E Cheese. I knew the party would be loud and chaotic, but I also knew that I wouldn’t have to clean up, so I booked it. And I am sure glad I did.

He was a bit nervous the morning of the party—an upset stomach and a little slow getting dressed. I remember getting nervous before my parties when I was a kid and he seemed to really relax once I noticed how he was feeling and acknowledged it. As soon as we got loaded up in the car he was ready to shine, this was his day and he knew it.

I can’t even explain how happy he was at the party—it was easily the best day of his life. He laughed, he danced, he participated in ways that I’ve never seen him participate before. He soaked up the celebration and we all could see it.

From the special cape to the Chucky Dance to happy birthday song to his time in the “ticket blaster,” Chuck E Cheese really did a good job of making this day different than a regular trip there. They let the birthday boy shine, made it fun for his friends and made it a really easy party to plan and execute.

As much as I love a “Pinterest Birthday,” Chuck E Cheese made quite an impression on me. I’d guess that this isn’t our last party there.  

Paying close attention to Chuck E, the giant rat. With Grampy and his haul from the "Ticket Blaster."









(NOTE: This post was in no way sponsored by Chuck E Cheese.)


The Problem with Summer

I want my boys to spend their summers working together to find bugs and climb trees.As of now, I have to take them to the park or hiking to get this kind of experience.

There are some great posts making the internet rounds right now about retro summers and how we should kick our kids outside—teaching them to navigate their surroundings and make their own entertainment. This is how I spent my summers and my husband did the same. We would LOVE this for our kids. The problem is, I just can’t see how it’s possible.

First off, we don’t live on rural acreage (my husband and I both did). I can send my kids out the backyard and they can occupy themselves for a pretty good amount of time, but with only a few thousand square feet of yard and no small creeks or climbing trees, it’s only a matter of time until they’ve exhausted their options. I long for more outdoor space and mature trees, but I don’t see it anywhere in our near future.

Secondly, we live in an awesome little suburb on the San Francisco Peninsula—our neighborhood is safe and there are tons of kids in the area.  This sounds like a plus, right? Well, it is if everyone lets their kids run around. But if you’re the only one, you have to worry about a nervous neighbor calling Child Protective Services because you let your kid ride his scooter around the block. And when all the neighborhood kids aren’t out roaming, you lose safety in numbers and that network of moms who are looking out for each other’s kids.

So how do we get summer back for our kids (and ourselves)? I don’t want to spend thousands of dollars in camps and shuttle my boys around all summer for the rest of their lives. I want them to make their own adventures, solve their own problems and for them to be out of my hair for hours at a time.

And I know I’m not alone. I had this conversation with a local mom just the other night and she felt the same way. How do we work together as a community to give kids back a little of the freedom they once had?