It’s a Boy!
Tuesday, March 20, 2012 at 11:25PM
We had our 20-week ultrasound this morning and found out that we’re having a boy! Even though Nic kept insisting that the baby was going to be a girl, I know that he will have SO much fun having a brother. My cousin has two little boys who are close in age, and I loved watching them together at Christmas time. It’s like having a built-in best friend.
Our sweet baby boy.
As much as I’ve adored having a little boy, and despite knowing that brothers would be such perfect playmates, there is part of me was secretly (and selfishly) hoping for a girl. We’re on the fence about a third baby, and I definitely don’t want to do it just to try for a girl. I’m not disappointed that we’re having another boy, I guess I’m just grieving a little for the things I may never get to do with a daughter—braiding her hair, prom dress shopping, wedding planning, not to mention all of the cute clothes and hair bows! But I do know that with all of these things also come knotted long hair, teenage drama and wedding expenses.
So, I’m focusing on all of the wonderful things Nic will get out of having a brother, how much I’ve loved having a little boy and all of the drama that girls can be. I know I’ll still have moments when I wish I had a daughter (like when I walk into Janie and Jack and see the Easter dresses), but I also know that I’m going to love being the mother of two little boys.
Reader Comments (5)
You just wrote the blog I've been meaning to write for 18 months now. I completely understand how you feel and it is normal. But I'm not going to lie to you. I still can't walk into most stores without feeling a little sad that I can't shop for the girl things. Don't even get me started on the lack of selection for boys! And like you said it is way bigger than the clothes. Honestly, I've shed tears over it. You might have inspired me to finally write that post who knows. But I will also tell you this if I had a choice between my 3 healthy (crazy) boys or a little girl that wasn't healthy or required special needs, I'd probably pick the 3 boys and that I what I remind myself when I'm feeling sad. But in the meantime, I'll hold out for grandkids and will probably drive my DIL crazy by spoiling them. All my best to you!
Congrats on your baby boy!! I am also a mom of two little boys (22 months apart), and I love every minute of it. I never saw myself having boys. It was always girls I envisioned, but now that I have them, I wouldn't change it for the world. Mine are now 2 and 4, and I am pretty much set. I've gone back and forth on having another, but I am very content with my two boys. They are best friends, and I love every minute of it. I decided if the only reason why I want to have another one is to have a girl then I had other options for the "girly time." As soon as the boys are school aged, I plan on volunteering as a big sister.
Congrats again!
Thanks for your comments ladies. It's good to see that I'm not alone in wanting "girly" time or pretty baby clothes. This was a really hard post to write because I didn't want to come across as unhappy about having another boy. I know that I'll have so much fun with my boys (and I'll just hope for more nieces!).
this is my biggest fear as we begin to try for no. 2. Like you, I don't want to be ungrateful for a healthy baby, but I'm secretly hoping our son will have a little sister. I worry, when the time comes for that 20-week ultrasound, that the news it brings won't break my heart. thank you to all the mommy betas who write on topics that are sometimes difficult to acknowledge/discuss.
great post, thank you; rereading it now that I'm preggers with another boy, and like you, most likely stopping at 2 children. I haven't given birth yet, like the other commenters, so while I hope all this sadness goes away and that I wouldn't trade my two boys for the world, I'm still grieving. OB could see that penis loud and clear at my 13-week ultrasound, so I've known about 12 weeks now, and it's still hard. We played dumb with our friends and waited for the confirmation at the 20-week ultrasound before sharing the sex publicly. I think I secretly was hoping first OB was wrong, and once I started saying out loud that we're having a boy, emotions hit hard. Still struggling to find a name option, though I have dozens of girly ones ready to throw out! I have nieces and will live vicariously through them, but still... though I agree with the others I should be thankful for a happy and healthy bambino, not only do I feel gender disappointment, I feel guilty that I was soo wanting a girl in the first place. (sigh)