Last week I was accepted to business school. I took the GMAT two weeks after I gave birth to Ava and am hoping to start my program this fall or winter.
I've been planning for an MBA for months but now that I am a mother of a girl, my reasons for doing it have shifted a little.
Miles will be 2 at the end of the month. I love being his mommy but raising a boy is a very different sense of responsibility. As women, we know how to support men. After all, we live in a highly patriarchal society so we support men all of our lives as wives, daughters, sisters, etc.
But we don't necessarily know how to support women. That is not as innate. So when the doctor handed me a baby girl two months ago, I thought to myself, "How can I set the best example I possibly can to prepare her for womanhood?"
I feel responsible to teach her things that I won't have to teach Miles. I certainly don't mean how to cook, clean, have babies, and wear pink. I want to teach her how to have ambition beyond gender limits, how to value herself beyond what the opposite sex thinks of her, how to love herself as a woman in a man's world, how to dream and reach for the stars.
I want her to be proud of me as a woman. I want her to see that her mommy puts everything she has into raising her family but also works hard for her own goals too. I watched my mom do that my whole life and am extremely proud to be her daughter.
These are lessons I want Miles to absorb as well but he will not face the boundaries that she will. Of course in the end, I want them both to be proud of their mommy for getting an MBA while cloth diapering, making baby food, and cutting the crusts off the bread. And hopefully I can exhibit some measure of grace throughout.
Maybe we can't have it all but as women we certainly can't stop dreaming for ourselves once the babies come. How can we raise dreamers if we don't dream too?