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Gift for Baby


A number of people have advised to get a gift for my toddler from the baby when she first meets him to soften the blow of a new addition to the family. Coming off of Christmas, I'm at a loss as to what this gift should be since she received a lot of nice things. Obviously it can't be too big because I want her to be able to carry it but I also want it to be something that she will be touched by and love which with a toddler I'd probably have more luck with a cardboard box than a super cool toy.

Cupcake necklace that can be made into bracelet

As of now, I'm thinking of purchasing a charm bracelet with her name, big sis and a few charms of her favorite things like a cupcake, ballet shoes and a butterfly. She loves jewelry. She does have a bunch of play necklaces and bracelets so I do want her to understand this is special. Any other ideas? What did you give your toddler as a gift from the baby?

Reader Comments (5)

I think the bracelet is a very cute idea!!
I had my daughter when my son was 18m old. He was young so something sentimental didn't seem fitting for us. So he got a blue Aden and Anais Dream Blanket to match the pink one we got his new sister (1.5 years later and it is his FAVORITE blanket)... along with that he got some busy stuff, color wonder markers and extra paper for it, finger paints and lots of paper for that, and a pack of Tonka Chuck and Friends cars..

January 4, 2013 | Unregistered Commenternatalie

I gave this a lot of thought too but I liked Nath's thought about not having the gift come from the baby but from the whole family. I saw a little boy in an elevator playing a Nintendo DS that he said his baby sister gave him. I thought that might have been a bit excessive. In the end I realized that at 21 months Miles would be too young to understand that the gift came from the baby so I ditched this idea altogether. It was causing me too much stress and I couldn't justify it in my head. I'm kind of glad I did because Miles had missed Mommy so much that he just wanted to sit with me and it was a very sweet moment. I'll never forget it. I still think about it. If there was a present involved I might have missed out on that chance to hold my two babies at once.

I do think it's a nice idea but maybe a bit overthought? After all, the sibling meeting is a precious moment. I actually still remember it when I was 3! The gift was not necessary. I just wanted to see my mommy and new baby sister.

January 5, 2013 | Registered CommenterNatali

I did this for my son when I had his little brother. I agree with Natali in some ways because I don't think that my son cared too much for his present. I got him an Elmo doll which he had never had before but always gravitated towards when at other kids' homes. I thought he'd like it and he could hold on to it for comfort since mom and dad were away. Nice idea, it just never took. But I still like the idea of a present whether or not it ends up being treasured. I think it shifts everyone's focus on the older sibling instead of just being all about the new baby. While it doesn't need to be overly thought out, it would feel good for you to know that you got them something that made them feel special too! So on that note, the jewelry idea is a great one. Obviously didn't work for me, but another good idea is something that they can cuddle with (favorite stuffed animal?). We also had the older sibling bring something for the new baby - he loves being "generous" like that so it made him feel good to do something nice for the baby.

January 5, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterJen F.

I think it's splitting hairs a bit about who the present comes from. My daughter was just over 2 when my son was born and we gave her a 'big sister' present from her little brother of a book called "I'm a big sister'' and some pjs. She loves then and got a kick out of a present from her little brother, it made her feel special when a lot of attention was on him.

January 9, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterBella

Thanks for the feedback ladies! I ended up getting Elle a doctor's kit as her gift. It's not really a keepsake like the bracelet but she fell in love with the one at our neighbor's house. I thought it would be a great thing for her to use and play with in the hospital too, checking mommy and baby to make sure they are doing well, etc. Elle also purchased a little something for the baby. I was hesitant about having her give a gift because 1) most likely the baby will be indifferent and that may hurt her feelings 2) she did not want to give him anything. She's already giving up mommy's time so I thought it best to just have her receive a gift. BUT, we picked something out anyway. We'll see when the time comes when we have her give it to him.

January 10, 2013 | Unregistered CommenterJennifer Parnell

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