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Saturday
Jul132013

The Second Time Around

 

Wow, it’s been a long time since I’ve blogged. Maybe because every time I sit down to my computer I hear my toddler ask for “Milkie” or a baby crying. Ha! But, I can’t complain. I’m blessed with two little fireballs that make every day exciting. That said for me the transition to two has been mindblowing. First things first recovery from my VBAC has been extremely hard. I so wish I had just done the repeat c-section. So for anyone thinking a vaginal recovery is easier than a c-section, think again. Its recovery time is much longer than the 6 week time period in my opinion because a lot of ligaments have been stretched and are weakened that aren’t damaged as much by the c-section. I think it would have been easier had I not had a c-section before where my uterus has been sliced open as well as my ab muscles which are all key to pelvic floor health so it’s prob a lot different for women who just have vaginal births. Anyways that has been an emotional and physical roller coaster not to mention all the new tricks I’ve had to learn/try since my little boy is a completely different baby than my daughter.

My daughter was the easiest baby ever. Never really fussy, took a paci from the start, nursed well, slept well – I mean really, my husband and I thought “man this isn’t that tough. What’s all the fuss about?” Somebody must have been listening because our little guy has a cry that can be heard a block away. He won’t take a paci and just recently got on a schedule and is sleeping much better. Hallelujah! When he is a happy baby, he is the happiest little guy on the planet and so sweet but when he’s mad, he’s mad! So far  he’s liked all the opposite toys that my daughter did. But, one of the things both agree on is that they like to eat. He’s already 20 lbs at nearly 6 months!

After having this little guy I feel like all the things I learned with Elle could have been pretty much thrown out the window and I also felt like an idiot for ever offering advice to anyone. Who knew babies could be so different?! How about you? Are your little ones different? Did you have a tough transition to two or even three?

Thursday
Jun132013

Cheers to Sleep Training

 

Greyson sleeping in his mini cribThe facts:

  • Greyson is 12 weeks old
  • He sleeps 11-12 hours every night without waking up
  • He takes 2-3 naps during the day
  • He’s rested, happy and thriving

I feel rested. Relieved. But mostly thankful that my household is getting the sleep it needs. I shared how we sleep trained my toddler Reese when she was nearly three months and to this day at almost three years old she sleeps well at night and still takes an afternoon nap (although I hear that goes away around age three). Anyway, with Reese, the sleep training was difficult. To put bluntly, it sucked. But looking back I can confidently say it’s been worth the three years of amazing sleep my family has gotten.

Sleep training child No. 2:

We realized it was time to sleep train Greyson after a week of only short 10 min cat naps...having previous weeks of great sleep.  My normally happy, easy going baby was so tired and I felt awful for him. Not to mention I was exhausted from the holding, rocking, nursing, baby wearing, trying to get him to sleep and stay asleep. But I didn’t mind all of this because as long as he was in my arms he was happy. What I minded was that my nearly three year old daughter was in desperate need of my attention and was acting out in any way she could to try to get it. She was anything but happy. It was physically, emotionally and mentally taxing. I knew it was time to get Greyson sleeping.

What we did:

So we brought in the big guns and worked with Vivian Sonnenberg, an infant sleep consultant who had helped us get Reese sleeping. She’s amazing! Her style is firm but ever so kind. She’s been working with babies for more than 20 years and knows what she’s talking about. I already knew her techniques but I needed the support and her years of knowledge behind me to give me the confidence to do this all over again. Plus as we know, all babies are different and she’s been great at helping me troubleshoot any and all hiccups.

I feel comfortable with her techniques because it’s not a full-on let your baby cry it out (CIO) but more of a limited CIO that provided Greyson just enough time to allow himself to self soothe. I feel lucky that Greyson didn’t cry much at all throughout this ‘training’ period. He’s been sleeping consistently through the nights and taking naps. Gone are the nights where it would take me sometimes 1-2 hours to get to bed.

The strategies in Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy child are somewhat similar to the strategy I’m using with Greyson but I definitely didn’t let him cry as long as the book suggests.

I’m glad my husband and I decided to move forward formal sleep training. I know it’s in the best interest of everyone in our family and I am already seeing the results. My baby is happy. My toddler is happy. My husband and I are happy. And we are all well rested.

I understand that sleep training is not for everyone. I am just here to share my experience and the awesome results!

 

Saturday
Jun082013

City Living: Closet Nursery

 

I wrote about turning one of our closets into a little nook for my second child. It’s working out better than expected. I’d like to get a mobile and some art work at some point. Shown here is the Babyletto Mini Crib, which I found on sale on onekingslane.com. It’s the perfect size and the mattress can be lowered so we’re planning to use it for as long as we can.

 

 

Wednesday
Jun052013

Second Time’s The Charm

 

Mother's Day Brunch 2013Greyson is already 11 weeks and it’s been a while since I’ve posted. By the time my oldest was this age I was dealing with, and had written about so many challenges -- complications from an emergency c-section, a baby with colic, breastfeeding problems, postpartum depression, etc. I had a lot to write about because it was so H.A.R.D. In my case for not writing much lately - no news is good news!

I’m relieved and ecstatic to share that the the past 11 weeks have been amazing and so easy (comparatively speaking...because let’s face it. Raising kids is hard no matter what).

First off, my planned c-section went smoothly and my recovery was fast! I was walking comfortably within a couple weeks and feeling pretty good after a few weeks. And this time around I've had no issues with my milk supply. Phew.  

Now for the fun part. Greyson is a doll! He’s a mild-mannered sweet and happy little guy  - assuming he’s rested and fed. He loves his sleep. I’ll just put it out there... having an “easy” baby is so much fun! I remember longing for this experience. My husband and I keep asking ourselves, “Is Greyson really that easy, or is he just easy to us since we had such a hard time the first time?” Who cares, we’ll take it!!

Not so say we don’t have new challenges...

The challenges that we’re facing are not around a new baby but with helping my 3 year old daughter transition into a world where she has to share “mommy.” She’s the sweetest big sis to her little brother, however she’s expressing her frustrations and need for attention by acting out towards me... It’s mentally and physically exhausting. Every day we work on it.  Anyway, this will make a nice little post of it’s own.

For now, I wanted to share that overall, things are going well. So to all of you who assured me that the second time around wouldn’t be as hard, thank you!!

 

 

Wednesday
May222013

To My Daughter On Her 1st Birthday

 

Lovely Ava. You are beauty embodied.

When you were a newborn, I used to stare at your balled up little fists and whisper, "Open your hands to the world, Baby Girl. Open your hands and reach for anything you want in life."

It looks as if my prayers will come true. I don't know what your future holds but I do know that you are a little girl with determination and tenacity. You open your hands to explore your world every day and it makes me so proud.

Mothering your big brother has taught me that infancy goes all too fast. So while you are still my little baby girl, here are the things that I want to remember the most about you.

  • Your smile. You love to smile and you have a darling dimple under your right eye when you do.
  • You wake up in the middle of the night mad as snakes. That smile is nowhere to be found. You want milk, a clean diaper, and to go back to sleep posthaste.
  • The way you point with such determination to the things you want. When I pick you up out of your crib you point to the rocking chair so declaratively that I can hardly refuse. 
  • You are a good eater! You took to finger foods far better than your brother ever did and I am proud of your adventurous palette.
  • Your vocabulary! So your first word was Dada. You say a lot more than that now including Mama, which melts my heart every time I hear it.
  • You want to walk in the worst way and get angry if we aren't holding your hands around the clock to help you. You cling to our fingers and wonder around the house as if you own the place.
  • You are completely enamored of your big brother, if not a little aggressive with him. You like to pull his hair and bang on his head if he comes too close but he is sweet with you and usually tolerates it. Except when he doesn't. He has been known to snatch toys right out of your hands and sometimes throw them all too close to your face. I have a feeling you'll be telling him how you feel about that soon enough. 
  • You don't care much for dolls or princesses but you sure do love your brother's superheroes! 
  • You wear it well! Mommy chooses your wardrobe with care and precision. I dress you like a proper little lady, although I choose very little pink. 
  • You give open mouth kisses, or none at all! Big, wet, and unapologetic. 

 I love you so, Ava Girl. 

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